Who This Service Is For
Anger management therapy is for people who are tired of regretting what happens when they get angry.
Maybe you've started noticing a pattern.
You tell yourself you'll stay calm this time. Then something happens. A comment, disagreement, disappointment, disrespect, traffic, parenting frustration, work stress, or conflict with your spouse pushes the wrong button—and suddenly you're yelling, cursing, shutting someone out, sending the text you shouldn't have sent, or saying things you wish you could take back.
Maybe your anger doesn't look explosive. Maybe you go silent, become cold, hold grudges, use sarcasm, or withdraw until the other person knows you're angry without you ever saying it.
You may have heard:
- "You have an anger problem."
- "I never know which version of you I'm going to get."
- "I'm walking on eggshells around you."
- "You need to get help."
- "You always have to win."
And maybe you're beginning to realize they're right.
At your worst, you may feel ashamed, defensive, out of control, or afraid of what your anger is doing to your marriage, family, friendships, or work.
You may also feel misunderstood: "I have a reason to be angry."
That's worth taking seriously. Therapy isn't about pretending you shouldn't be angry. It's about learning to understand your anger well enough that you can choose what you do with it.
The Specific Root Causes
Anger as a Protective Response
Anger can show up when someone feels disrespected, rejected, powerless, threatened, embarrassed, hurt, or afraid. Sometimes anger becomes the emotion we reach for because it feels safer than vulnerability.
Learned Patterns
People often learn how to handle conflict from the environments they grew up in. If yelling, shutting down, intimidation, or avoidance were normal ways of handling disagreement, those patterns can become automatic.
Accumulated Stress and Overload
Chronic stress, lack of sleep, work pressure, financial problems, parenting demands, relationship conflict, and major life transitions can lower your ability to regulate emotions.
Unresolved Hurt
Sometimes today's anger carries yesterday's pain. Resentment can accumulate until relatively small events trigger reactions that seem much bigger than the immediate situation.
How We Help
Our Approach
Anger management isn't simply about learning to "count to ten."
I use a combination of relational therapy, CBT-informed strategies, Emotionally Focused Therapy, family-systems thinking, and practical emotional-regulation skills to help you understand what happens before, during, and after an angry reaction.
We'll look at the entire sequence:
What happened → what you felt → what you told yourself → how your body responded → what you did → what happened afterward.
Understanding that sequence gives you more opportunities to intervene before anger becomes behavior you regret.
What a Session Looks Like
Sessions may involve identifying triggers, examining thought patterns, recognizing physical warning signs, practicing regulation strategies, and exploring the deeper emotions underneath anger.
We may also look at the relationships where anger causes the greatest problems.
You might learn to recognize:
- when your body is beginning to escalate
- the thoughts that intensify anger
- the difference between feeling angry and acting aggressively
- how to pause without simply avoiding the problem
- how to communicate frustration without attacking
- how to repair after you've handled something poorly
Our Experience
My training as a marriage and family therapist means I don't view anger only as an individual problem. When anger is affecting a marriage or family, we also need to understand the relational cycle around it.
The goal is not simply for you to become better at suppressing anger. The goal is to become more capable of understanding it, regulating it, communicating it, and responding differently.
Why Choose Us
Therapy can help you:
- Recognize anger before it reaches the point of explosion.
- Understand what your anger is actually communicating.
- Respond instead of reacting.
- Stop saying things you later regret.
- Handle disagreement without intimidation, yelling, or shutting down.
- Repair relationships that have been affected by your anger.
For many people, the real goal isn't "never getting angry."
It's being able to say, "I'm angry, but I'm still in control of what I do next."
What to Expect
The First Session
We'll talk about what brings you to therapy, when your anger tends to show up, what happens when you become angry, and what consequences you've experienced.
We'll also look at the situations where you most want things to change.
This isn't a session designed to shame you or convince you that you're a bad person. It's an opportunity to understand a pattern that may have become automatic.
Will We Talk About My Relationships?
Often, yes. Anger rarely exists in a vacuum. If your anger is primarily affecting your marriage, parenting, family, or other relationships, we'll consider those dynamics as part of the work.
How Long Does Anger Management Take?
That depends on the severity and history of the problem. Some people are primarily looking for practical skills and accountability. Others are dealing with longstanding emotional and relational patterns.
Progress often begins with recognizing the pattern earlier and creating more space between feeling anger and acting on it.
Logistics
In-Person or Virtual?
Both are available. In-person therapy can provide a helpful environment for focused work, while virtual sessions may make ongoing therapy easier to maintain.
Session Length
Sessions are 50 minutes.
Investment
Standard therapy sessions are $155 per 50-minute session.
Renew Relational Therapy is private pay and out of network. Superbills are available for clients who wish to seek possible out-of-network reimbursement from their insurance provider.
